by Kimberly Baker
Recent cultural conversations on the importance of women’s advancement have increasingly included abortion access, perpetuating a tragic assumption that “pro-woman” and “pro-life” are diametrically opposed viewpoints. This belief ignores the full reality of the beauty and dignity of all human life. To be pro-woman is to be pro-life; one cannot exist without the other.
Abortion has negative outcomes for both a woman and her child, with the two-fold loss including both the destruction of the child’s very life and the destruction of the mother’s well-being. The aftermath of abortion for a woman often includes psychological traumatization, and sometimes physical harm. Far from promoting dignity and freedom, abortion promotes the lie that a woman must harm herself and her child in order to be free.
The idea that abortion empowers women is one of many lies in society that are, in reality, incredibly harmful to women. How many other areas in culture have women been told to endure pain and a “quick fix” for their own advancement, whether through the fashion industry, eating disorders, or cosmetic surgery? Abortion advocates perpetuate the myth that women must “jump through hoops” and do violence to themselves in order to preserve their equality and the freedom to advance in the world.
Many women have rightly rejected the myth that they must “jump through hoops” just to be acknowledged and valued as human beings. The authentic, pro-woman position demands a woman be loved and valued for her own sake, exactly as she is—not because she has compromised herself. Abortion is anti-woman because it attacks some of what is most true and beautiful within a woman. Abortion is the very antithesis to a woman’s ability to nurture and bring forth new life.
Abortion advocates treat pregnancy like a problem or a disease. Pregnancy is not the problem; it’s the lack of care for the woman—for her own dignity and life-giving ability—that’s the problem. When society devalues motherhood and the ability to nurture life, making these things a source of shame and inconvenience, it increases the likelihood of a woman feeling like she has no option other than to abort her own child. We are called to love.
A woman facing an unplanned pregnancy should never feel like she must face it alone. She needs to know that others truly care about her dignity and well-being, and that there is help through a variety of sources, especially from local diocesan resources like the Respect Life office, Catholic Charities office, or local pregnancy help centers and maternity homes. Both mother and child deserve experienced care and compassion; both deserve a future filled with hope. As we bear witness to and build the culture of life, in what ways can we show support, both for mothers facing unplanned pregnancies and for all women and the unique challenges they face?
Society often objectifies women and tells them they need to reject their procreative and nurturing abilities just to be equal to men and to feel respected. But there is much we can do, in our personal witness, to counter these lies. When we celebrate and support women in all their unique gifts and contributions—including their life-giving capacity—they will be encouraged to make life-affirming choices for both themselves and their children. To be pro-woman is to be pro-life. If we want to change the cultural conversation, we must be a part of it.
There are many resources available to help expectant mothers and their families with Catholic Health Services of Long Island Pregnancy Support Services help is available.
To provide assistance for an unexpected or crisis pregnancy, CHS has established a one-call outreach program via 1 (855) 301-4CHS
Kimberly Baker is programs and projects coordinator for the Secretariat of Pro-Life Activities, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops. For more information on local help for any woman facing a difficult pregnancy, please visit www.heartbeatinternational.org. Originally published 4/10/17